This is one of the hardest things to be expected from any thinking person. Forgiving a hurt that was not apologized for.
My niece surprised me one day. I was with her and her mother and we were trying to sort out something urgently and she kept disturbing us. I tried to distract her with some other things so as to allow us to concentrate and do what we were doing but she kept coming back. Her mum got angry at a point and really spanked her and she started crying. We continued what we were doing while she cried in the background.
By the time we were done, I carried her and started consoling her. I made her all the promises of the things I will buy her if she stopped crying. She did not stop. She just kept looking towards her mum. I told her mum to tell her sorry so she would stop crying but her mum refused. The little girl came down from my hands and went to her mum while still crying and started telling her, “Mummy, I’m sorry. I love you”. I was looking at her in shock because she was the one that was beaten and then she is the one apologizing.
I look back today and I wonder how that will work out in the lives of we adults. How is it possible for anyone to hurt you and give you you good reasons for doing that and then you turn around and tell them you are sorry for what happened, probably ask them for forgiveness and then you forgive them? That is really a hard thing to do.
But the truth is that if you want to lead a really simple life devoid of clutter and full of peace, then this is the kind of life you will choose to live. Will people think you stupid and weak? Sure. But that is only their opinion. It does not make you stupid or weak. It makes you the bigger person; the more mature person; the gold-heart person. Go. Today, give it a try and see how relieving it is.
Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.
– Jonathan Lockwood Huie